I recently embarked on a cleansing frenzy that started with sifting through old boxes in the basement and ended up being a huge transformational shift. Looking back, it wasn’t about cleaning at all. It was all about self-love.
“There are four questions of value in life…What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.” – Johnny Depp
Maybe getting “unstuck” in our lives all comes down to a simple question, “Do you love yourself or not”? The brutal truth is we hoard toxic things in our mind, body, and spirit that stop us from loving ourselves. Let’s be honest, choosing to entertain negative thoughts is an act of self-punishment. Choosing to not take care of our bodies is an act of self-hatred. Even choosing to keep junk in our homes stifles our spirit blocking creativity and growth. Thankfully we can also choose to stop and “clean” our temple.
Back to the boxes filled with financial statements and audit reports from my past positions in accounting. I squirreled away things from previous jobs in case I might need to reference them in my next accounting gig. However, last year I walked away from accounting never looking back. But had I really? I still had boxes that contained my past identity spanning twenty years. Last year I would have been horrified at the thought of pitching these but this particular day something changed within me. As I went through the boxes I started trashing everything, confident I would never need them again. Dragging eight garbage bags to the curb, I was liberated that I finally let go of my past and moving forward in a career that makes my heart soar!
It didn’t stop there.
Over the next few weeks I walked from room to room in my home and questioned every object. Was it useful, beautiful or joyful? If not, why did I keep it in my living space? There are many reasons why we keep things; it was a gift or I might need it someday. I decided I deserve a loving home filled with vibrant objects to nurture my soul. Don’t you? So I filled the boxes I just emptied with things that didn’t serve me. What followed was a big garage sale, donations and lugging everything left over to the curb with a big “Free” sign. I’m happy to report both the clutter in my space and mind is gone.
Thirty pounds overweight, obese by medical definition, is a battle I’ve been fighting my entire life. You know the standard culprits; stress, health issues, work, toxic people, places and things. Suddenly I realized these were excuses and decided to make better choices. Like doing a cleanse and choosing organic vegetables, fruits, fish, and chicken. And exercise. And self-love. I’m down 25 pounds, training for the Detroit Free Press Marathon in October, and getting fitter by the minute!
Yes indeed, a big transformational shift that all started with the simple decision to love myself more. It’s your turn to decide girlfriend. Choose Love.