Framily Matters


“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born”. – Anais Nin

How many true blue friends do you really have? It’s an important question because it’s critical to your health and spiritual well-being. It’s necessary for your personal growth and happiness. The quality of your friendships is one of the key determining factors in the quality of your life.

Friends are our extended family, our “framily”, and can be our most enduring and important relationships. We know that lovers come and go. Children grow up. Sadly, our parents die and family is separated by distance. But our friends are the glue that helps hold our lives together when the chips are down.

There are the fun friends who are great to hang out with; go to the movies, lunch, giggle, and shop. But it’s our framily that stand beside us during our darkest times that really makes a difference. I’m talking about the friends who catch us when we fall down, whom we can call and they drop everything to be by our side. We need friends we can tell anything and everything. Everything? Yes, much to your horror, everything. The friends that reach out to us, and not through Facebook, just to make sure everything is good in our lives.

Over the past month I’ve had a handful of close friends confide in me that they have been struggling alone with a major, personal issue for many months. My response has been one of surprise because they have masked it so well. We as women are experts at this. We are the masters of the fake smile and saying everything is fine. For months they silently suffered. I understand why we do this, I really do. We don’t want to bother anyone. Awful feelings like guilt, shame, and embarrassment seep into our psyche. Heaven forbid we worry anyone right?


Who else can we be vulnerable with if not with our framily? They provide us strength, compassion, and an empathetic ear and we do the same in return. Ask yourself, do you have the ability to share your deepest pain without worry of judgment or criticism? It’s obvious to the ones that do not. They struggle with isolation, depression, bitterness, anger, and despair. You alone have the ability to pull yourself out of the quicksand by making a simple choice to truly share yourself. Be vulnerable. Be open. Trust. Stop playing it safe and find someone you trust to share your struggles and fears.

I think true friends are the people who help you be the person you are intended to be. Take a bold step; make sure you have framily with whom you can share anything, the good…and the bad times.

You do not have to battle alone Girlfriend because after all…we are framily!

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