I watched the movie, “The Way We Were”, starring Robert Redford (Hubbell) and Barbara Streisand (Katie) for the first time the other night. It was a toss-up between various reality shows or this. Little did I know this movie truly IS a reality show.
Sheepishly, I have to admit the only exposure I’ve ever had to Babs and Bob is the last goodbye scene between Carrie and Mr. Big in “Sex in the City”. Guess I’m dating my age, but no matter…I never really got Carrie’s epiphany, that was until I watched the movie.
I lay awake for quite awhile afterwards, thinking non-stop about Katie and how strong-willed, passionate and intense she is.
Why did she have to make things so complicated between them? Why couldn’t she relax and just “be” rather than lose Hubbell? Why was she constantly battling against the status quo, seemingly never satisfied? Why, when it’s much easier to just go with the flow???
I could ask the same questions of myself for that matter. Why do I refuse to settle for anything less than I deserve? Why won’t I simply be satisfied with mediocrity in jobs, relationships, processes or myself even? Why isn’t the word “conform” in my dictionary???
Why? Because. She, I and many countless others, including you dear reader, have to be true to ourselves above all costs. While compromise has its place, make sure you aren’t selling your soul for it.
It’s brutally difficult, intense, passionate, tiresome and lonely at times but what you have in return is a life of not settling, a life of no regrets filled with extreme highs and lows. It’s not a life for everyone and that’s okay. But if you can stomach it, you really are living authentically.
So the next time you see a woman being “difficult”, not settling, standing up for herself, fighting the good fight, do her a favor and acknowledge she is a “Katie” girl.
Yes, you are quite lovely, Katie.