I was recently invited to join a Mastermind group of “Wise Women” and last month was my first official meeting. It’s been a long time since I’ve been invited to join an exclusive girl’s club. I felt honored and intrigued at the same time. They told me once a month; the seven of us meet in someone’s home to enjoy dinner and courageous conversation. We talk about our lives; we vent, we cry, we laugh and smile. Mostly we are there for deep listening, a sympathetic nod and warm heart. We come from different backgrounds, different ages and different paths, but yet we are the same – loving, supportive women who are excited about continually growing ourselves. I did not hesitate to accept the invitation…how could I?
On this particular evening to initiate thoughtful discussion, one of the Wise Women shared a book, “I am Beautiful: A Celebration of Women in Their Own Words”, Woody Winfree & Dana Carpenter. After dinner in the cozy kitchen nook, we moved to the formal dining room and circled around the large, oak table. One by one we opened up to a page in the book with a brilliant photo, read the caption and wrote down whatever came to our mind. I opened up to a picture of a woman looking at herself in the mirror and the caption underneath was something like, “Because I use my hand to shape the light. I am imperfect seeking a solution”.
When it was my turn be in the “hot seat” (Mastermind lingo for being in the spotlight), I spoke the words I had effortlessly written without even thinking. Aloud with a wavering voice astounded at my own enlightenment and holding back tears, the wise women listened deeply, nodded and really understood what I was trying to say. Heck, I didn’t know if I even understood what I was trying to say? But in the end I can tell you this: I made peace with being imperfect and constantly seeking a solution for life’s everyday challenges.
Take my advice, join a Mastermind group or start your own because your life will be elevated in ways you can’t even imagine. If you aren’t sure where to begin, here are some quick tips from a Mastermind course I took this past summer:
1. Pick a niche or topic area – The more narrowly you define the topic area for your Mastermind group, the better chance you’ll have of attracting members. Need ideas for topic areas, Google “mastermind groups”, you’ll be amazed.
2. Decide how many people – The best groups are 4-8 people, for two reasons: First, it gives everyone a chance to be in the “hot seat” at each meeting. Second, if someone doesn’t show up for the meeting, there are still enough people there to effectively Mastermind together.
3. Choose the right participants – Nothing will destroy a good Mastermind group than bad members. You want to find people who are excited about creating change in their lives, who have a positive mental outlook, and who are eager to both give and receive advice and support.
Wise Women indeed. I can’t wait until next month, and every third Monday evening that will follow.
If you are interested in joining a monthly Mastermind group via teleconference, send me an email and I’ll provide you details on my group that I plan on leading in 2013. Ready for change and growth in a safe and supportive environment? Here’s your chance girlfriend…Call me, Maybe!